A Healthy Baby

In the past, whenever I heard someone say something like “I don’t care if it’s a boy or a girl, I just want a healthy baby”, I was a little bit annoyed. Okay, a lot annoyed. You see, I wasn’t nearly that mature. I cared a lot. Of course, I wanted a healthy baby, but I also wanted a girl.

For some reason, I had always envisioned myself being an all-girl mama. I’m a girly-girl. I know about dolls and ribbons and hair and clothes and know nothing about trucks and cars and spiderman. So when I went in for my first 20-week ultrasound, I was certain–without a doubt– that I was having a girl. I was wrong.

I confess, it took me some time to get used to the idea of having a boy, but once I held my son, I didn’t care anymore. I adored him.

Then, I got pregnant again. And, just because I adored my son didn’t mean my yearning for a girl was any less. In fact, that time, I was terrified. I had nightmares about having quadruplet boys and ending up getting pregnant 17 times and has 17 boys. The day before I went in for that ultrasound, I wrote an article for Nickelodeon about how badly I wanted a girl that still rankles people when they read it. Just look at the comments! But I didn’t care. I desperately wanted a girl. And when I found out at my ultrasound that I was pregnant with a girl, I was ecstatic.

Fast forward almost four years and I have both a boy and a girl. And, suddenly, I’m one of those mamas. I’m saying it. Officially: I don’t care if this baby is a boy or a girl. I just want him or her to be healthy. I know that annoys the tar out of some of you (it would’ve annoyed me immensely during my last pregnancy) but this time, I’m really 100% neutral.

So, we’ll find out in about an hour. I’m nervous… but only because I’m anxious to know.

I’ll let you know tomorrow.

(My guess: A boy)


  1. LOVE this– love your honesty. I think it's totally okay to want one or the other. It's human. It doesn't mean, as you point out, that you won't love the baby that arrives. We have two boys and my husband and I have BOTH acknowledged that we would have a third, if we knew it would be a girl. Of course, it doesn't work that way (unless we opt for adoption, which we've discussed).
    I get what you're saying! and can't wait to hear!

  2. Oooo…I'm so excited to hear what you're having!

  3. Finding out is so much fun! I always said if I had one of each, I wouldn't want to find out on the 3rd one. Well, looks like that probably won't happen since my body can't handle more pregnancies. I'll just have to fill my quiver with precious babies from an orphanage somewhere. :)

  4. I can totally see myself being similar to you! For some reason I really want a boy first. (No kiddoes yet)! Not sure why exactly but I have for as long as I can remember. But if I get a boy first I am doing to desparately want a girl next! (Obviously a healthy child as well but still… I have my preferred order and I am sticking to it)!!! I can't wait to find out what you are having and do pray the boy or girl is healthy too!!

  5. I can't wait to find out! I am considering simply not finding out the sex and being extra surprised at the birth. Of course, I am FAR from being pregnant, but something I have already talked about with my husband. It's okay to be one of "those" mamas too. :)

  6. Yay! God bless you – can't wait to hear (will you be sharing?)

  7. We've had three. I wanted a boy and a girl and then whatever. Had two girls and a boy. And, really, what was most important was that they be healthy, and thankfully they were. Praying for the same for your family. wb

  8. I said that when I was pregnant with my second, but it was mostly to try to tell myself that I didn't care because I did a lot!

  9. Oh, I'm with you here, Erin. This mom cared a LOT. I wanted a boy first and no two ways about it. Guess what? I got that boy. Then I had another boy. Then, I began praying for a girl. One night I dreamt I was pregnant and I could see inside my tummy–it was a girl! I told my husband we should try because I just knew we'd have a girl. Guess what? God gave us a girl, now 15 and truly a gift from heaven.

    I'm excited for you and pray your baby is healthy and beautiful. Can't wait to hear what you're having!

  10. Erin,

    Oh, I can't wait to find out. I was wrong with the sex of every child I had. So, I'm guessing a boy. Which means you're probably having a boy then.
    It's a tie score in our home – 2 girls, 2 boys. But, I will admit that the moment I held my baby girl in my arms, I had no idea how much I'd wanted a girl. Now, after almost twenty years of parenting both…boys win, hands down!

  11. Sure, I can totally see wanting a girl when you already had a boy. God decides what's best for you, and he gave you a girl. And this time??? We'll see! I had 2 girls, myself, and it was great.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog, entering my 100-follower giveaway, and following! Nice to "meet" you, Erin.

  12. I meant to say, you're probably having a girl then…that's what I get for blogging while I organize my kitchen cabinets!

  13. I wanted a girl so badly I could taste it, was convinced we were having a boy, and was blessed with a wonderful daughter who turned 20 this past New Year's Day.

    I look forward to hearing whether you're having a boy or girl this time.

  14. Wow. Those comments are really terrible on the article that you wrote for Nick. That's crazy!

    I completely understand the desire for one gender or another. I was terrified that I might have a girl. I'm not a girly girl and I know nothing about bows and dance classes. Thankfully the Lord blessed me with a super-hero and truck loving little boy! I couldn't be happier with him but I am also tempted to buy every pretty dress that I see and send it to me niece!

  15. I have four boys and I really thought the last one was a girl and her name was Hope and God had told me and everything. Now it sounds crazy, but I believed it and blogged about it and when I had a boy, I was shocked. Still completely enthralled with the miracle of a child and in love with him, but wrestling with my lack of hearing God right was the hardest part. My heart has changed and I am delighted to be the mother of four boys. God knows what he's doing. Still, I have made them all promise me that they will have girls. Nice to meet you- Brigetta

  16. :) I wish for you a healthy child, no matter what sex.

  17. Direct and honest writing…and I wish you a healthy family addition…no matter what the "flavor."

  18. That statement doesn't bother me b/c I understand. I wanted at least one girl! And I have one and 2 boys. I think most females want a girl. But yes, healthy is most important.

  19. Hello Erin!!
    Funny how things work! I have two wonderful litle boys and now we are pregnant with our third! I would love the experience of a healthy little girl..but I understand it is not in my hands!! I always say if God blesses me with a third boy..then I guess that’s how it’s suppose to be! I just wanted to say this page was so sweet to read before I go to bed tonight ..that is if I can sleep….you see we find out tomorrow what the sex of our third child is and I was so nervous I sat down on the computer and googled “being nervous about having a healthy baby boy or girl” hoping it would somehow help ease my mind about it!! Honestly..and you were the first site that came up that I picked!! After reading half way down your page and sobbing.. reading all of the sweet comments I realized we had the same name and I’m also a Christian..I couldn’t help but to think God wanted me to read this tonight before I went to bed!! God bless you and everyone on this page!! xoxoxooxxo

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