Please help: I’ve come down with a bad case of mommy guilt.
A little background info: I’m due with my third baby in 2 days (yay!) I know that the next few weeks (months) of my life will be crazy and hectic. And, I also know that I will probably not be able to give my older children the attention they need and deserve when I’m dealing with a newborn.
Enter my parents: They’ve offered to take my five-year-old son on an amazing 11-day vacation to Oregon in three weeks. They’ve planned for him to spend time with my husband’s family as well as aquarium outings and sand castle construction and dinners out and it sounds like a wonderful trip for my son—especially in light of the fact that he knows my parents and his other grandparents well and they are amazing spiritual mentors to him in his life. And, life at home will probably be less than exciting.
Enter mommy guilt.
I know he’ll have a wonderful time on the trip—and I know all of his grandparents love him dearly and will give him loads of love, care, attention and prayer. Yet, I don’t want him to go. I don’t want him to be gone for eleven whole days. I’ll miss him. And, I feel like by sending him, I’m sending the message that I’m sending him away.
So, please help me. Is it crazy to send my baby (okay, my five-year-old baby) away for eleven whole days? Is it too long for him? Or, am I doing the right thing by allowing him to enjoy special heritage-building time with his beloved grandparents?