“Kate, I’m tired. Go play princess tea party in your room.”
“Joey, I promise I’ll clean up your entire room when we’re done…”
“Kaaaa-ate. I said no.”
My heart broke. Poor Kate. She has never known life apart from her big brother—her playmate and confidant—and suddenly, he’s away at school every day and she’s here. She really misses him.
Then, when he gets home, he’s tired from a long day—a day where he’s been learning and growing and making friends. He just wants some downtime. And she, on the other hand, just wants to play with him.
Unfortunately, I don’t know how to fix it. I can’t force Joey to play with her—especially when he’s worn out and tired. But I also can’t just ignore the fact that I have a little girl who desperately wants to be around her brother
I’ve been praying about this—and while I haven’t come up with a solution, I have come to one important realization: My kid’s sibling relationship is essential, and, one of my jobs as their mother has to be to help them preserve it. Because they love and need each other and I cannot let a life change like my son starting school get in the way of that.
Yesterday, when my son got home from school, I had Kate help me make him a special snack (wild animal trail mix with animal crackers and raisin “ants”) and give it to Joey. Then, we played Uno. The three of us. Before long, Joey and Kate were chatting away just like old times—and ten minutes later Joey asked the question I had been waiting for: “Kate, want to come upstairs and play Star Wars with me?”
Question: How do you work to preserve sibling relationships?