Overwhelmed by Motherhood

Right now, being a mom feels overwhelming.  And impossible.  And exhausting.

And, I’m preaching to the choir.  I’m hardly the first or only mom to be busy—instead, I’m one of the masses.  In fact, I’m willing to bet that every mom who reads this post will say “me, too!” and “sounds familiar”.

Between kindergarten drop-off and preschool pick-up and snack donations and feeding the baby and homework and reading practice and birthday parties and football practice and dance lessons and… well, you get the picture… I feel like I can’t even find an hour’s gap in my schedule to go to the grocery store.  Much less do things like volunteer on the PTA or participate in the school fundraiser.

Does it have to be this way?   The truth is, I don’t know the answer.

I mean, it’s not exactly like I can cut out school.  Or Homework.  And, while I could cut out preschool for my daughter, when she’s at school, I write.   Or I used to write.  Now, I walk the halls trying to get the baby to fall back asleep because he always falls asleep on the way home from preschool drop-off.

So, how do I get a grip?  And find a way to spend less time in the car and more time doing the things that are really important?  And, beyond that, how do I find a way to do the things that are really important for my family AND pursue my own personal goals at the same time?  I’m about to have a panic attack just thinking about it.

My friend Joanne Kraft actually took a year-long “radical sabbatical” from business (you can read about it in her book, Just Too Busy). Her kids stopped doing all activities and extra-curriculars and focused on family time.  She claims it was the best thing she did for her family.  The truth is that I’m not sure I’m ready to go there—my son just loves football and my daughter loves dance—and I can’t bear the thought of taking those things away from them.  But I’m considering it.

At this point, something has to give.

Question: Are you overwhelmed?  How do you deal?

5 Comments

  1. Aw, Erin. I’m so sorry. *hugs* I don’t have a ton of answers. I’m not a Mom yet. I know many have gone before you and there is hope you can get through it. Pray, rest in Christ’s grace and maybe see if your husband has any ideas of ways you can get things under control? Love ya!

  2. When my busyness meter reaches critical mass, I have a few strategies.

    1. Remind myself this is just a season. My kids weren’t babies forever. (The time goes ridiculously fast, though it doesn’t seem like that at the time.)

    2. Have a sit-down with the husband and see what our priorities are and what in the schedule isn’t lining up with those goals.

    3. Talk to a friend about what’s going on.

    4. A little chocolate. :)

  3. Yeah, I’m officially overwhelmed. Chocolate. Prayer. Writing. Not always in that order.

  4. Wonderful write, good page theme, continue the great work

  5. One of the most difficult things was learning I could not do it all. Accepting the help of others in any way you can. Can someone carpool? Although it seems so, you do not need to do all the driving. Can your parents help, have they asked to and you thought it was not OK? You silly girl, parents only ask if they really meant it. A commitment to you is sacred to them, and they love their grandchildren, too, just still you the best. Reaching out to friends means giving back as well, so be sure what you are involved in means you still have time for friends. But, the giving back does not have to be immediate, or even specifically by you. Maybe someone with one child can drive a carpool more often so your baby can sleep, then you, or your husband, be sure to include him in the doing, can give back when someone else has an infant. It is not tit-for-tat, but more ‘paying it forward’. Hope this helps.

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