Breakfast at My House: A Look at Intentional Conversations

Here’s how breakfast went at my house this morning:

Joooey,”  I screamed up the stairs and I frantically spread just peanut butter, no jelly onto crustless bread for his lunch.  “Five minutes to get dressed and get down here.”

He glugged down the stairs with a sigh, throwing his T-shirt on as he walked into the kitchen and sat down at the counter.  I tossed a banana at him.

He ate it.  Slllllllooooooooowwwwwly.  As I said “eat quickly”.  Over and over.  And over.  Toast was tossed on his plate.  And a heap of scrambled eggs.  And our entire conversation was a chorus of “hurry” and “eat faster” and “finish your eggs” and…well, I can imagine the poor boy was stressed by the time he went to school.

And, my goal for intentional conversations in January officially failed.

So, here’s what I’m doing tomorrow.

  1. I’m going to call Joey down for breakfast 10 minutes earlier so I don’t have to rush him.  And, when I call him down, I’m going to be done with making his lunch, cleaning up the kitchen, etc. so I can focus on him and only him.
  2. I’m going to sit down with him while he eats.
  3. I’m going to have an intentional conversation with him… not just nag at him to eat fast.  Tomorrow I’m going to talk about his feelings at going back to school after three weeks off… and explain to him how I feel because truthfully, I’ve really enjoyed having him home and after one day, I’ve really missed him.

I’ll let you know how it goes.

What do you talk about at the breakfast table?


  1. Hi Erin! Wow, it’s so good to see what’s up in my blogging friends’ lives.

    I can relate to this post, seriously. That peanut-butter-only mom was me so many times in the last six months. It’s one of the reasons why I’m determined that if I can help it, my writing life will never go in quite that way again!

    But I have it easier than other moms in some ways because I have only one child, and I don’t have an additional job besides homeschooling and writing.

    What I appreciate about all that stress I went through: it has given me much more sympathy for moms who are just stretched so thin by work and other responsibilities that they feel they can’t be the moms they want to be all the time, as I felt this year. It’s a hard, hard feeling to overcome, and I have a better understanding now.

  2. I read this yesterday morning but had to go before I could comment because I had to get my own kindergartner out the door. Our morning was exactly the same. I thought, “Didn’t I just read this on Erin’s blog?” So my decision was similar to yours. I’m going to focus on my pokey little puppy this morning instead of fussing at him all the way to school. I’m sure the word “hurry” will come out of my mouth but perhaps my blood pressure will remain at normal levels. We’ll see!

  3. How did this morning go with your intentional chat? Great idea.

  4. Wow…that’s a very lofty goal. If you can pull that off in the morning, I think I need lessons. I don’t even have anywhere to be since my son is only four, but I still have to nag him to eat in the morning. And, I am usually washing dishes or something too. I think it might be different, though, if I knew he was leaving out the door for the day in a couple of minutes…I can understand why you miss him!

  5. This is amazing advice. So simple yet I’ve never really thought about it. Let me know how it goes, and I really LOVE the fact that you are putting your kids’ needs before your own in the crazy morning time (when I tend to be at my worst!).

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  7. love this erin. mornings are so crazy for us as well. have you tried making lunches the night before? also, i lay out the boys clothes for them the night before as well. keeps the morning chaos just a little bit more to a minimum. then again, half the time they are still eating their breakfasts in the car…

  8. Added, I love your blog! :)