Dear Birth Mom

Dear Birth Mom,

I am in awe.  I have been sitting here staring at this picture of my precious new nephew Asa for an hour now and I am overcome with emotion.  He is so beautiful– those big dark eyes and those tiny lips that seem to be continuously turned up into a smile.  Tears stream down my face as I write this– tears of joy because we have been waiting for this day, for this child, for him, for so, so long.

But I know that our joy comes at the price of your pain.  I know that while our hearts are full, your arms are empty.  And while I don’t know who you are or where you’re from, I do know that our family is eternally grateful to you for making such a courageous choice.  Your choice– the decision to give Asa up for adoption even at the cost of your own heartbreak– is the bravest and most selfless choice that I can imagine a mother making.  And we give you our heartfelt thanks.

I’m sure my words will do little to soothe your wounds, but I want to assure you that Asa is already adored by our entire extended family.  We have been praying for him– for you– for months now and we joyfully welcome him into our lives with humility and a deep sense of gratitude.  He has an entire network of prayer warriors praying for him as he faces surgery– and he has an entire network of friends and family who are ready to shower him with love, compassion and mercy as he heals.

Right now, Asa’s big sister Haddie and his cousins Joey and Kate are in the room drawing pictures to decorate his bedside in the NICU.  Kate drew tiny Asa in a crib while surrounded by all 11 of his cousins being showered in kisses.  Haddie drew her brother smiling.  Joey drew him holding hands with his parents, skipping through a field.

As they draw, the kids keep asking to look at his pictures.  They laugh at his sweet expressions.  They dream of what it will be like to hold his hands for the first time.  And even at a young age, each of them instinctively know that this baby boy– our baby boy– is theirs to love and cherish.  And they, like the rest of us, have all already fallen helplessly in love with him.

So, thank you.  Your gift has changed our family forever.  You will forever be an unsung hero in my mind–and you will be in my prayers always.

Love, Erin

Note:  Baby Asa will be facing surgery to repair his intestines (which developed outside of his body) sometime between May 2nd-May 4th, 2012.  After that he will spend several weeks in the NICU in Temple, Texas before being able to come home.  His road is long, but his prognosis is really good.  Please keep Peter, Alisa, Haddie and Asa in your prayers.  I will update my blog with Asa’s progress as he heals.



  1. Love this! I have been praying for this mom all morning, while praying for Peter & Alisa – Your words are so beautifully written. I pray that God is providing this mom with comfort today as her hopes and dreams of having the best for her child has come true. This precious little boy has been placed in such an amazing family. So very excited for all of you, and for the hearts of Alisa & Peter.

  2. Love this blog site and this post for sure. I didn’t know that you are family to Peter & Alisa Dusan but once I saw the picture and read this post after just reading Peter’s status about there little boy and how he is doing it all clicked together. Amazing how everyone is really connected in a way. Congrats on the addition to your family!

  3. Lord God – thank you for this precious little one. Thank you for the birth mother. And thank you for these adoptive parents, who are so eager and ready to be a forever family for Asa. Would you heal and restore and bless this family? Asa, the birth mother, and these new parents. Would you be with this little one as he goes through surgery…protect him and be with the doctors. We praise you for adoption. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

    I will continue to lift this little guy up in my prayers, Erin.

  4. What a very touching letter. What a very sweet boy. Will be lifting baby Asa and your family in prayer.

  5. So happy for your family, Erin. He is beautiful and I pray that he recovers quickly and fully from his surgery in the next couple of days. May God continue to bless your family and the sweet boy that just entered your lives. He is simply beautiful and such a gift!

  6. Darn it, Erin, you made me cry. This is a beautiful post. A beautiful boy, a beautiful family. Thank you for bringing some of God’s beauty to my day.

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  9. Thank you for this Erin…of course I’m sobbing right now:)

  10. Thank you Erin for writing and communicating so beautifully about this wonderful gift that God has placed upon our family. I will be praying for everyone and the Dr.’s and I can’t wait to come and hold and kiss him! Love you. Christy

  11. Just wanted to tell you how much I love this – it brought tears to my eyes! So happy that God has blessed your family with this precious little boy and will be praying for his entire family.

  12. I read Asa’s story on your Mom’s blog, and of course wanted to hear more when directed to your blog Erin. Thank you for sharing and as all above have stated, you have a beautiful gift with words. I am expecting a baby boy next month and find myself identifying with Peter and Alisa and their amazing gift, but very much with the birth mother and the heart ache that I can’t even begin to fathom having so selflessly allowed little Asa a better life and loving family. God bless you all and I know His healing hands will be with Asa as he recovers amidst all of the love and support of his family.


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