Of course, I have a great excuse. I’m working on a big book deadline along with a smaller work deadline and all in the midst of trying to spend time with my kids when they are off school for the summer and with my husband when he’s taking his one two-week reprieve from work for the year. But good excuse or not, I’m struggling with it.
I’m struggling to keep my head above water.
I’m struggling to stay focused when I desperately need a nap and some quiet time.
And most of all, I’m struggling with the fact that I’m supposed to be a stay-at-home mom and yet I’m spending more time working than with my kids.
I’m sure they’ve noticed that I’ve upped my babysitting hours this summer in order to finish these deadlines. And I’m sure they’ve noticed that I’ve been around much at all.
I think this is the eternal dilemma for moms: We want to be there while our kids are young, but we also have dreams, hopes and careers of our own. How do we balance that? Without losing ourselves and our kids in the process?
As I’ve contemplated this, I’ve spent some time asking Mr. Google for work/life balance ideas. Here are a few that I’ve come up with, but I’d love it if you could add to the list. How do you balance life and parenting with positive results?
4 Tips for Finding Work/Life/Mommy Balance in Busy Times
- Go for quality instead of quantity. When time with your kids is limited, make sure the time you do have is well spent. I’d made it a point this summer to take my kids on bike rides, to go swimming, to play on the floor with them during my precious mommy time.
- Let something go. I just don’t have the time for everything in my life right now. And if I’m going to have to let something go, I don’t want it to be my kids. So, I have to admit that I’ve slacked off on the chores lately. I’ve tossed clothes into laundry baskets without folding them and I’ve made PB & J for dinner more than once.
- Get away when you’re working. I’ve worked from home for years, and usually don’t have trouble balancing the occasional interruption to my day when my kids need something. But right now, I’ve made it a point to get away from the house when I’m working so I can make the most out of my work time… and of my home time.
- Give yourself a break. I learned how essential rest is to motherhood—and work–after I decided to wake up every morning at 4:30 to write for a few hours before the kids woke up. It lasted for a week and then I realized that my brain was so fuzzy and I was so exhausted that I was doing more time zoning out than writing. As important as it is to find work time and kid time, it’s also important to rest.
Question for you: How do you find work/life balance?