What I’m Going To Be Doing While You Stand In Line at the Ticket Office to Watch 50 Shades


A girlfriend told us last week that she’s planning a girl’s night to go watch 50 Shades of Grey with her friends in a few weeks. And another friend is planning on going to the movie with her husband for their Valentine’s Day night out.

We hope they have a great time. Really, we do. But we won’t be going with them.

Because we’ll be at home having sex with our husbands.

We’ll just come right out and say it: We’re not feeling overly enthused with the entire 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon. It feels so wrong to be glorifying this relationship where a woman is abused and the man is sadistic. Are these the kind of romantic heroes on which we want to base our love stories?

It doesn’t make sense to us.

We don’t want that for ourselves, but even more, we can’t stand the thought of our daughters believing that 50 Shades of Grey is a modern fairy tale. But we’re afraid that’s exactly where our culture is headed: Christian Grey has been elevated to some sort of modern Mr. Darcy and the true romantic heroes of our time—men like our husbands who cherish us and have never demeaned us—are labeled as… boring?

It really doesn’t make sense.

But we don’t have to let it make sense. We can stand up and say that we don’t want Anastasia and Christian to be our romantic example. Not when we have so many better examples—examples of men and women who have chosen to love each other fully, to never demean, to never demoralize, to keep sex as a wonderful, intimate gift that always builds, always protects, always loves.

We want that kind of love.

Not boring. Not prude. Not vanilla-missionary-between-the-sheets-every-Friday-at-eight type. But a love full of passion, full of romantic. The kind of love that dances in the living room naked to the Bee-Jees at 8’o clock on a Tuesday. We want to kiss often and to laugh even more. We want to try to new things, to get to know each other, to  to have a red hot sex life and a love that stands up to the demands our culture puts on it.

That’s what we want. For ourselves and for our daughters and their future husbands. And for all of our friends who want the same things.

Which is why we wrote our book series, Hot Mama. We want sex to be a good thing—no, an amazing thing—and we want the Christian women in America to have the tools and inspiration to make it everything it can be.

50 Shades Movie ChallengeAnd it’s also why we’ve come up with an alternative to watching 50 Shades of Grey on February 14th. We’re calling it the 50 Shades Movie Challenge. It’s pretty simple: While women across America are standing in rainy lines outside of theaters on February 14th waiting to watch 50 Shades of Grey, you will be at home having sex. With your totally hot, totally amazing husband.

Will you join us?

If so, feel free to grab one of the images from this post and post it on your Facebook page along with an explanation as to why you will be doing what you’re doing. (As if you need an explanation to have hot sex with your husband.) Let’s start a new revolution. And make marriages in America hotter.

PLUS, to help make this challenge even easier, we’ll be giving away 10 copies of our new e-Book, 10 Ideas to Inspire Red Hot Sex, to 10 people who share this post on their Facebook pages. Just share the link to your Facebook post in the comments on this blog and you’ll be entered to win. Good luck!

Oh, and happy Valentine’s Day.


    • Thank you! You are the best!

  1. I shared it and tagged you, but I’m not sure how to link to it here.

    • Devon, thanks so much for sharing!

  2. well since I am not married…the ‘hot sex’ thing won’t be happening …it just would not be right…however I love this so I am sharing it anyhow…and FYI…I WOULD LOVE A COPY OF YOUR BOOK…LOVE

    • Teri… thank you for commenting….

  3. You bet your britches I’m taking this challenge and with my hubs in our bed most definitely where I’ll be on February 14th!

  4. I shared, just not sure how to link on comments. I’m also on the book team for Pulling Back the Shades so this fits so well with that!

  5. Definitely! Love this challenge for Valentine’s Day (and any day). Here’s to a God-blessed, red hot sex life! https://www.facebook.com/tessa.brolin

  6. Love this! While I will be home alone on that day probably bawling my eyes out I will not be watching 50 shades of grey. As a Christian woman who was married to an abusive man for 13 years I would never want the kind of man this movie glorifies for myself nor for my daughters. God bless you for going against modern culture and promoting relationships that are as God intended them to be.

  7. I love this article! I already plan to spend the evening with my husband! So looking forward to a steamy time! I’d love to win the book too! Thanks


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